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Question and Answer

I rededicated my life to Christ recently. My boyfriend lives with me and our finances are deeply entangled. I know God is restoring me and telling me we can no longer live together. I know I have to leave my boyfriend. How do I do this in accordance with Scripture? How does this happen peacefully?

First, I am thankful that your life in Christ is being restored! Nothing is as crucial in life as our commitment to God and His Son Jesus Christ. Your obedience is a sign of Christ’s life in you, a tribute to your love for Him and for His Word (John 14:15).

However, as you are realizing, there are consequences to our choices, and obedience to the Lord does not mean that things will be easy or that others will accept those changes. God does not promise a peaceful resolution just because we do the right thing. If your boyfriend does not believe as you do, he may be understandably angry and upset. When you talk to him about what you must do, explain to him how hard this decision was for you and that you are a Christian and must obey God because you believe what the Bible says. Then assure him that you will take responsibility for your part of the finances. After this, continue to pray for him and ask others to pray for you.

While this will be painful, you can be assured that God will sustain you. As Paul writes to the members of the church of Philippi, “He who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus” (Phil. 1:6).

BY Dr. Rosalie de Rosset

Dr. Rosalie de Rosset has been teaching at Moody Bible Institute in the Communications Department for over four decades.  She is occasionally featured on Moody Radio. She is a speaker and writer and lives on the northside of Chicago, a city she enjoys for its natural beauty and multi-faceted art offerings.

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