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You said on one of your Today in the Word programs that God wants us to live holy lives. The lady with whom I have been intimate now says she doesn't want to do that any more. She says the Bible is right and she agrees with you. I know what she means—but isn't there any wriggle room in that? It doesn't seem right to me.

From a purely biological point of view, it may appear that sex is the most natural thing in the world—even without the benefit of marriage. Lifestyles in our culture echo that point of view. Media heavily influences our standards. Worldly music glorifies sex by any means, with songs like "Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places" and "Let's Get It On." Certainly, the animal kingdom operates without any rules, so why can't we?

The answer is rooted in an important truth of who we are: human beings are not animals. We were created by God in His image, and we have within us living souls that ultimately must answer to our Creator. God created sex, so it is certainly not inherently bad, but it was designed for marriage. Sex without the commitment of one man to one woman in sacred union destroys us from within.

The apostle Peter said, "Dear friends, I urge you, as aliens and strangers in the world, to abstain from sinful desires, which war against your soul" (1 Peter 2:11). Paul warned the church at Corinth: "Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers . . . will inherit the kingdom of God. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ" (1 Cor. 6:9-11). In 2 Corinthians 5:17, Scripture says that if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation, with old things passed away.

Even as the children of God we will be tempted to live in ungodly ways. But God doesn't wink at it; He confronted it, by sending His Son to be our Savior. When we know Him, we are convicted of our sin. And if we are the children of God, we want to be holy because He is holy. No, for the child of God there is "no wriggle room" around God's Word. We really do want to please Him. When we don't, we've got a problem.

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